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You are not who you think you are!
Whatever your issues are, and however bad they may seem, always remember that these are NOT who you really are! For example: if you have extreme feelings of lack of self esteem and confidence these are just learnt feelings about yourself from things that have happened to you in the past, and because of the way you feel, this makes you behave in such ways that will provoke reactions in other people that may seem to confirm what you believe. In truth these feelings are just false beliefs and in no way reflect who you are.
**You have to remember that everybody reacts to the world and other people from their own point of view. Everybody has issues, and most people are controlled by these. So what you learnt in the past has come from people who may themselves have lack of self esteem, so they then unconsciously pass that on to you. So what does this mean for you? It simply means that your "hand me down" beliefs have shaped how you feel about yourself and that they are NOT the truth, they are false.

An example:
A 25 year old friend of mine has grown up believing she is ugly, stupid and unworthy. She has learnt this from her father...why? Because her father literally told her she was ugly, stupid, and her opinions were not important. And other things he did made her feel the same way. The reason she took these words as the truth was because she obviously looked up to her father and as a child there was no other reason why he would say those things... after all it's our parents who teach us about the world. But in reality her father is stuck in his own tortured world of worthlessness and NO self esteem. So he was being controlled by these feelings and really couldn't help what he was doing and saying. This was his own defence against these terrible feelings, he had to make someone else feel as he did and worse so that he at least felt better than someone else.
**But how could he do that to his own child?.. you ask? Like I said, he was being controlled by his feelings as we all are to some extent.
**So how does knowing that help you? Well read the story again and again and you will see the truth of it. By understanding why he said what he said, and that he didn't know what he was doing, my friend can then come to a new belief that what he said was NOT true in any way. She has come a long way since I started helping her to see the past differently!
**So...my advice is, to try to see through the behaviour and words of the people around you, for they are not the truth. Ask yourself why they do what they do, what must they believe about themselves and the world to make them do that? When you can see this, your whole perception will change, you will gain full self esteem and confidence and you will lose the destructive resentment and anger that goes with these feelings.
**If you do decide to come to S.E.E, you'll be encouraged to see this deeply. But even if you don't, please try to remember the story of my friend because it most definitely does relate to you and everyone else. It really will change your world once you really understand it fully!